Doing Things Alone

I guess some people like it some people don't.

Some people see it as a sad case. Well, it really isn't, and there is nothing wrong with doing things alone. Like having coffee or lunch or dinner alone. It doesn't mean I don't have friends or companions to accompany me, it just means I like to have my own company and spend time with myself.

There is nothing sad about spending time with yourself. You get to know yourself better this way. Because the person who understands you most is yourself.

I guess this is the last semester I have to take a course by myself, while my other coursemates were always there for each other. I had to re-route my course outline because of higher BBI classes who are so damn hard to register! Making me drag on Statistics and Accounting. Finally I finished my 2 BBI courses this semester, Thank God! I will be back on track with my coursemates starting next semester.

Although it was kinda freaky to take such a hard course by yourself without people you know to back you up especially when exams are near, I find it very worthwhile as I have made new friends along this 3 semesters. These friends and seniors have been very good company.

A lecturer once told us that if our Malaysian students were to go overseas to study we would die with the group mentality that we have in our uni now. Well, he's got a point. In lectures different ethnic groups will seat with each other and just mingle with each other, the great 3 groups are of course the Malay, Chinese and Indian groups.

For students who are studying abroad, I guess they had to do things alone because there are no close friends around unless you make one, or some, along your journey.

I guess the good thing about it is you can always make new friends that you will end up depending on, too. And we can grow much more as a person when alone sometimes than having to stick with people all the time...

I Try to Remember

1. Everybody Doesn't Have to Love Me

Not everybody has to love me or even like me. I don't necessarily like everybody I know, so why should everybody else like me? I enjoy being liked and being loved, but if somebody doesn't like me, I will still be okay and still feel like I am an okay person. I cannot make somebody like me, any more than someone can get me to like them. I don't need approval all the time. If someone does not approve of me, I will still be okay.

2. It Is Okay to Make Mistakes

Making mistakes is something we all do, and I am still a fine and worthwhile person when I make them. There is no reason for me to get upset when I make a mistake. I am trying, and if I make a mistake, I am going to continue trying, I can handle making a mistake. It is okay for others to make mistakes, too. I will accept mistakes in myself and also mistakes that others make.

3. Other People Are Okay and I Am Okay

People who do things I don't like are not necessarily bad people. They should not necessarily be punished just because I don't like what they do or did. There is no reason why other people should be the way I want them to be, and there is no reason why I should be the way somebody else wants me to be. People will be whatever they want to be, and I will be whatever I want to be. I cannot control other people or change them. They are who they are; we all deserve basic respect.

4. I Don't Have to Control Things

I will survive if things are different than what I want them to be. I can accept things the way they are, accept people the way they are, and accept myself the way I am. There is no reason to get upset if I can't change things to fit my idea of how they ought to be. There is no reason why I should have to like everything. Even if I don't like it, I can live with it.

5. I Am Responsible for My Day

I am responsible for how I feel and what I do. Nobody can make me feel anything. If I have a rotten day, I am the one who allowed it to be that way. If I have a great day, I am the one who deserves credit for being positive. It is not the responsibility of other people to change so that I can feel better. I am the one who is in charge of my life.

6. I Can Handle It When Things Go Wrong

I don't need to watch out for things to go wrong. Things usually go just fine, and when they don't, I can handle it. I don't have to waste my energy worrying. The sky won't fall in; things will be okay.

7. It Is Important To Try

I can. Even though I may be faced with difficult tasks, it is better to try than to avoid them. Avoiding a task does not give me any opportunities for success or joy, but trying does. Things worth having are worth the effort. I might not be able to do everything, but I can do something.

8. I Am Capable

I don't need someone else to take care of my problems. I am capable. I can take care of myself. I can make decisions for myself. I can think for myself. I don't have to depend on somebody else to take care of me.

9. I Can Change

I don't have to be a certain way because of what has happened in the past. Every day is a new day. It's silly to think I can't help being the way I am. Of course I can. I can change.

10. Other People Are Capable

I can't solve other people's problems for them. I don't have to take on other people's problems as if they were my own. I don't need to change other people or fix up their lives. They are capable and can take care of themselves, and can solve their own problems. I can care and be of some help, but I can't do everything for them.

11. I Can Be Flexible

There is more than one way to do something. More than one person has had good ideas that will work. There is no one and only "best" way. Everybody has ideas that are worthwhile. Some may make more sense to me than others, but everyone's ideas are worthwhile, and everyone has something worthwhile to contribute.

-Author Unknown

All The Hype About 2012

Happy New Year 2012!

The year has finally come! I remember talking to my friend back in 2008 about the Mayans predicting the end of the world in 2012, and laughed at how many years we still have left.

The thing is, is it really true? Well here are the many ways how the world will be predicted to end: http://www.endoftheworld2012.net/

If it is true. Should we start preparing now? Hahaha! I mean there won't be much point to save up our money and plan for next year since we are all gonna die anyway. If the world should end, I wonder how would our lives end. Alien? Earthquake? Nuclear? Anti-matter? Solar flare? Sounds painful. Ouch!

If it is not true. Then there is nothing to really think about is there? Life goes on anyway. Think about how stupid people will feel when they wake up on 2013 and nothing happened.

Problem is we have no idea whether it is true or not. How are we suppose to know whether an alien is coming, or whether the Mayans or the apocalyptic prophecy is true? In an age where everything needs proof, it is kind of hard to believe in oracles and prophecies and messiahs. All regarded as primitive and its evidences unsubstantial.

Most important of all is the collective mindset of people. How so? Because people "feel" that no such things will happen, as they "feel" comfortable and normal living lives everyday that this year will be the same as every year. A catastrophe of such a big scale "feels" just too impossible to happen. How accurate is our "feelings" really?

In conclusion we really have no idea what would happen in the future. What is important is we appreciate life everyday regardless whether the world is going to end or not.
If it is going to end, then there is nothing we can do about it, so we don't have to worry.
If it is not going to end, then there is nothing to worry about.
So there is really nothing to worry about. Haha!

Have a good year ahead everyone!